Past discussion about the Diamond Children and their reflective abilities, leads us back this month to shed more light on the very special exchange that takes place in every relationship. What we feel within those relationships is the mirror reflection of our deepest awareness about ourselves. Diamond children’s reflective abilities are a mirror to us to see ourselves more clearly through their reflection. They reflect back to us from what we see in them. Their presence opens us up to more awareness of what we feel inside of ourselves.
What I have noticed about these special children is that they are so strongly independent and sure of themselves even in the face of adult uncertainty. Can this mean that they are reflecting a strength and assuredness that is deeply hidden inside the adults around them? Are they possibly here to show us a strength that we have not allowed ourselves to acknowledge because of the fears that we have been accustomed to living with? Perhaps we have unknowingly turned our focus on our fears too often? How often do you see children around the age of six or seven begin to display the obsessive behavioral patterns of their parents? Are we missing the message here?
Of course, any discussion of our Diamond Children would be incomplete without some thoughts and blessings for those of us with a truly special child. This month’s Financial Holistics feature in our newsletter addresses the unique financial and estate planning opportunities for parents and families who have children with unique challenges. Hundreds of years ago, it was thought these souls kept counsel with God.
Please refer back to the newsletter, or email me for a copy of the helpful thoughts, if you or someone you know and love is faced with the challenges of a special needs child.
In the first year of life, infants are required to learn to sit, crawl, stand, walk, talk, eat, use their hands and fingers to hold, grasp, pick up, throw, drop and feed. What strength and intelligence this takes! They mimic everything they see and hear us do as adults. They are conditioned to sounds, music, laughter, anger and tears. They respond naturally without any learned behavior at first, it is only later that they learn by example and unfortunately they may learn the biggest obstacle of life ~ judgment.
Learning by example and observation is setting the stage for relative exchange and the beginning of relationships. There is very little of the balance of giving and receiving. It is mostly based on self-awareness of their needs and how they find the proper ways to communicate those needs to their caregivers. They are often training the adult to respond in a specific way based upon their behavior.
Here is what my dear Emma has taught me recently. I observed her in a daily routine of being in her playpen while her Mom gets ready for the day. At some point when she wanted the attention of her Mom, she would communicate her need by crying. If Mom was unable to meet her needs at that time, she would continue to cry. At this point I became aware of the concept of free will. Emma could very easily choose to stop crying and play with her toys or she could continue to cry. It was a choice that she had. My judgment that she was uncomfortable because she was crying led me to feel she needed to be comforted. Her Mom reminded me that I would not always be able to be with her and I needed to allow her to find her own ways to comfort herself. How smart my daughter is! It was a “first time grandma” in me that needed to be reminded.
My perception was that she needed to be comforted BECAUSE I was uncomfortable watching her be uncomfortable! Here again is the mirror reflection. It was about my discomfort that led me to a need to rescue her from hers. Our pain was reflecting back to each other and clearly it was about our own pain. We choose our actions based on our personal needs. It is about us and no one else. This is the basis of relationships. Emma quickly learned that she could comfort herself and she then chose to stop crying and play. I am thankful for this reminder and the strength of her Mom to see it clearly and relay the truth to me.
Last month’s teleseminar was about connecting to our Inner Child. We learned that the reason we often have difficulty with this is because of our own childhood experiences. The relationship between the child’s parents, the relationship the parents each had with their own parents, and the relationship they observed between their parents is all reflected back to the child.
When you look at your own childhood, what is the first memory that comes to mind? How do you feel about it? Whatever you feel, you will find that it has influenced your choices within your life. It affects your expression of fear, trust, tolerance and also playfulness. How is that child in the inner part of your stomach feeling? If life as a child was unkind and negligent how are you presently acting unkind to yourself today? Are you neglecting your own needs and comfort? How can you change that for yourself? If you were unable to bond with your mom right after your birth, you may also find that you presently have a difficult time connecting with another in a lasting balanced relationship.
The Avana Method may be able to assist you in identifying these parallels and also assist you in bringing peace and balance to those memories. The first step is always awareness. If you have become aware and are now choosing to do something about that, then consider an Avana consult to guide you to this healing.
It is a gift of the Avana Method that may lead you to a place of peace that you have yet to find. With this peaceful state you will be able to connect with your inner child more fully and you may begin to dance with joy through life experiences.
It is my prayer that you cross the barrier of fear to reach for the hand of your inner child. May you embrace this part of you with a renewed awareness that guides you into the home of comfort, peacefulness, joy and laughter. May you become as fearless and playful as a child and may this awaken a new memory of wholeness at all levels of your being. May you now choose to dance and play through life in new ways!
Many blessings, love and light,
Joyce
Happy 1st Birthday! Emma Joye Salvo
